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mommamiax3

My MIL had 5 sons, and apparently gave her daughter up for adoption bc she never wanted a girl (nobody can confirm this bc it wasn’t with my FIL & she’s known for lying) anyhow, we had 2 girls and my august baby was a boy. When she met our son at a family party, in front of everyone, while holding him in front of our daughters she said and I quote “boys are SoOOOoOo much better than girls” & “if you would’ve had a 3rd girl I wouldn’t be sitting next to you right now hahaha”

She really thought she was doing something there. Everyone was repulsed my her comments. My husband was not around when she said that. I literally CANNOT look at her the same, no matter if she was joking or not, she repulses me now.

My husband recommended going no contact, because these comments are just the least of it. Im so happy I have a husband who supports me, and puts his family first, but I will be honest, i do feel a bit bad for him.

Not sure what the point of this post was exactly. Just wanted to see if anyone has ever gone through something like this.

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jackie4950

I have never gone through this but what a horrible thing to say !! Did you say anything back

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mommamiax3

@jackie4950,

no, I wish I would have. I was stunned.

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First of all…thats so awful about her giving her daughter up for adoption if its really due to the reasons you suspect (which sound’s right based on the whole post). Yeah, I’d be repulsed by her too. Im in a similar situation myself. I cannot stand my MIL. Its to the point where I dread her calling/texting/visiting. I was actually just telling my own mom about this today - I was saying like I almost cant even explain how/why but I have never had such disdain towards someone as I do toward my MIL.😅 She’s manipulative, plays the woe-is-me victim card when it fits, and likes to be controlling. One of the first things she said to me was that she feels the need to micromanage me (this was years ago like when me and my SO first started dating and I’d just met her). She always kind of acts like everything I have is really hers (my dog, my house). She’s made comments in the past about me that I didn’t like and my SO wouldnt speak up (for example: saying Im too pale but not even saying it to me. Like saying “and Hannah is just way too pale” while Im standing there. I just responded “I like being pale. :)” lol). Sorry this is turning into my own venting session😂😭😅🥲. But anyway as I mentioned, my SO later told me he didn’t like that his mom commented on my complexion. I was like… I wish you would’ve said something in front of her! So Im kind of jealous that your husband recommended going no contact. If my bf recommended no contact…girl Id throw a party. Like I would be so happy I wouldn’t even know what to do with that level of joy. I say embrace his recommendation. Maybe it will keep you guys happy as a couple. For me, my bf forces me to interact with my MIL and it just drives me insane.

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mommamiax3

@hannahp21,

oh my gosh ew! I am so sorry you have to deal with that. That’s terrible. I don’t know why MILs are the way they are, but I hope I can be the total opposite 😅

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@mommamiax3,

same. I’m already often thinking of how I will be as a MIL😅 and how different that will be from my MIL. The irony is my MIL has told me how she never wants to be like her MIL…meanwhile I’d take her MIL over her easily😅

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NellieGirl19

🙋🏻‍♀️ My in-laws are incredibly controlling and manipulative. They’ve done a lot of hurtful things that eventually created tons of resentment for them. I’m trying to move past it for the sake of my relationship, however, my partner is still wrapped up in their toxicity. Letting go of that resentment is tough but I have no choice. Good on your husband for choosing you and putting his foot down! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I would be repulsed too after what she said,

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nutnutbuttercup

She sounds like a hot pile of toxicity. I vote no contact. Save your girls the heartache of constantly being disappointed by their grandma, who favors their brother

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MommaStacy

Ew! What a hateful woman. My in laws only had boys so they are obsessed that we had two girls since they never got to experience that themselves. I’d definitely go no contact if hubby was okay with it

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My maternal grandmother had an issue with boys. When my little brother and I were young she showed a blatant preference for me. She would bring me gifts, take me for walks, even come and take me to the zoo and leave my brother behind at home. He didn't understand why grandma didn't like him or what he'd done wrong. Imagine how heartbreaking that is coming from a toddler. Eventually my parents put a stop to it. To this day my brother has a lot of social problems, and I'm sure that's not the only cause, but I wonder...

Anyway, it's not something I'll ever allow with my babies. I think you're right to nip that in the bud.

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I grew up with a grandma who preferred my boy cousins and as a kid I never understood why i was always treated horrible compared to my boy cousins. That has stuck with me my whole life. And now my family makes comments like that, that are toxic and hurtful. So we are like 90% no contact but now and then we'll call and say hello or whatever. We didn't give any explanation except for oh we are busy to avoid any arguments or any negativity. Focus on your happiness and don't let anyone else dim your happiness!

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OMG. I would be so angry. Your poor daughters. She is toxic and they shouldn’t even be around her if she’s that disrespectful. What else does she say/do when you’re not around if she says something like that in front of a group of ppl? 🤦‍♀️ This b**** needs to go

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